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My life as a dumb ***
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October 1, 2013
4:42 pm
rob davis
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I will be succinct as possible. I was approached by a local community college to teach a “women’s only” self defense class. I explined that “in my opinion” it was difficult for me to teach a gender specific self defense class, as the techniques and methods are the same but not withstanding physical strength personality traits and moral issues etc.


It was then explained to me the amount I would be paid for the course. I said “ok” I can definitely do that”. The fee they were willing to pay would be an immense help right now with my financial problems. I then began to work on a syllabus that would cover Laws pertaining to “self defense” victims assistance, psychological effects and awareness etc. For the physical portion of the course I mapped out a rudimentary program based on MMA. My thoughts were I would use basic boxing mechanics and techniques to teach form and power development. I would utilize focus mitt drills and thai pads for knee and elbow work.

I also mapped out a series of grappling basics that would cover escapes etc. To round out the course all of these elements would be tied into simple gross motor skilled “self defense” techniques.  I also included a small section for some physical fitness type drills just to pant the idea of “the feeling” and change in body structure and attitude when in good condition.


The participants would only have to have a pair of training gloves and personal protection ie, mouth- guard.


I was so excited abut this much needed financial windfall and delivered the syllabus to the college. After about ten days I received an e-mail that said ” thanks for the syllabus”, “we are re-thinking this course as we  were not aware it would be so physical”.


I responded “you asked for a course on self defense, did you want a lecture only class?, because I don’t think the participants would gain nor enjoy it”. I then received a telephone call from the college and was asked if I could simply show how to keep a person from choking you and some rues about not becoming a crime victim.


As much as I needed the financial boost I told them I wasn’t the right “fit” for what they wanted. The sad part is I am sure they will find someone to do the program.


October 2, 2013
12:30 am
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Call them back and tell them you’ve rethought the situation and have decided that you can in fact do exactly what they think would be a self defense class.


Once your foot is in the door you can always explain to your students the limitations of what they are learning, and why their administrators have limited it.  Then you can mention how to further their education if they are interested.


Meanwhile you collect the check. 

October 3, 2013
6:50 am
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As Dr Sick said it may be time for some back peddling and explain that you are going to write a lecture / demo tailored to there needs and use it as a lead in to a short , maybe 6 , 8 , 10 week  more hands on program for those who want to take there self protection a step further , as we all know real self defence is 99% awareness and avoidance to avoid having to take a physical response anyway .

Even if it means hiring a hall or a squash court or something for duration of the course .could be the start of something bigger .

All the best with it whatever you decide .Paul

October 14, 2013
10:55 am
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In Wyoming I used to assist with a college self defense course. We had to dial intensidty down because the student base wasn’t interested in much more than a credit not real education. Our second semester we were able to turn things up a bit because the whiners dropped out. Day one we discussed the 21 ft rule, safety bubble (green, yellow, red). General awareness, then worked into the escalation of force. We required them to bring in news articles of self defense successes and failures and with their new knowledge what or how would have been a better method of the scenario if one exist. I do think 80% or more of a self defense class is lecture and knowledge but for a couple of semesters, you just can’t keep hammering home the same basic principle, it isn’t that deep of a topic.

We also started using kali along with the focus mitts and thai pads. Girls aren’t touchy feely and by second semester they are comfortable enough for some grappling or just touching people in general. That is what made kali a great intro. High cordination skill for which girls kinda are good at naturally and next to zero contact with other students. Also never hurts to get the idea of using an improvised weapon. rolled up magazine, keys, writing pen, etc. 

By the time I was over it the class was literally a drag to go to because it isn’t about true desire but for the PE credit. Which is what ours counted as. 

I personally would be hard pressed to do anything called self defense in the future for several reasons I have discussed here in the forum before. But if money was tight I would be on it without a doubt, just try to meet their needs and desires with a big ol open position to the student of how basic of approach this is and if they want to learn more physically to get with you 1 on 1 or in a separate training environment.

October 14, 2013
7:37 pm
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Thanks for the replies, definitely going to reconsider this.

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